REALLY STRESSED???

STOP watching and reading the News for one week!

Life gets us down without much help, so, why do we bombard ourselves with even more problems? What on earth can be done about things that have hit the local news? More often than not.... NOTHING! However, it is absolutely fantastic at making us feel even worse than before! So, I dare you to turn off the television / or / at least change the channel when the news services come on and watch something thrilling to you! I mean to say, we can't even watch the local weather report without El Nino rearing it's ugly head...! Watch what makes your heart sing - a corny line, BUT, an honest one that will serve you very well...!

Tell those who say "you have to face facts" to sing a different tune because you already have! WHY, (if we are facing facts) don't we get news on ALL THE GOOD STUFF that is out there? Why don't we hear about Joe Bloggs down the street who just won millions of dollars, came across a new invention, little Joey who took his first steps? Because apparently the news has decided on our behalf that we want to hear the gruesome details of a one in a million case!!! BUT, we think it is a regular occurrence because these stories are in the news every single night. Well, don't forget, they scour the GLOBE with a fine tooth comb to get you these "common stories"!

Let's get back to basics.... IF IT FEELS GOOD......DO IT... IF IT FEELS BAD.......DON'T DO IT...!

Short but sweet today, oh so very sweet!

LOVE

*.*.*. JOY .*.*.*

Take Back YOUR POWER

This is key! Take back the ownership of your feelings! Be OK with where you are at, you have to be ok with it before you can change.

POWER DOES NOT = PUSHING AGAINST

LOVE YOURSELF – A corny line I know, BUT, an important one! Louise Hay is an amazing woman and she said it perfectly “I LOVE AND APPROVE OF MYSELF”, I said this every day when I got nervous / depressed for whatever reason. Keep repeating that phrase to yourself and see what happens! Many of you may very well be thinking that it is too weak, not enough substance to it. I have to tell you, in the 16 years I had panic attacks & depression, the small & easy steps ARE the ones that work!

STOP TRYING TO PLEASE OTHERS – Ever heard this line “You just have to snap-out of it”? Frustrating, isn’t it! You want to please your loved ones and try to do back-flips in order to do so! STOP, it will never happen. No matter how hard you try or what you do, it will never please them how you want it to! This is only for their own selfish interests. I know, they would debate this and well they should (hear me out with this one), they (loved one’s), want to see you happy, healthy & thriving because it makes them feel bad to see you otherwise, SURE they also want it for you, but, this does NOT help you. The more tricks you try to do to please them, the more disconnected with you you are becoming. Then, you fall back into a ditch and wonder what on earth happened! STOP TRYING TO LOOK GOOD ON THE OUTSIDE TO PLEASE ANYONE ELSE because inside, you know it is false and feel ten times worse inside for having tried it! I am talking about working from the inside-out. Explain to them (in a nice way) that you need to do things at your own pace in order to succeed. Also explain how much their being there means to you and you love and even need their support. PLEASE NEVER AGAIN BE ON A DIFFERENT PAGE TO YOUR LOVED ONES, this hinders and confuses your recovery!

TRY NOT RELYING ON OTHERS – I know, there was a point in my life just reading that line sent shivers down my spine, the very thought of not having a “safety-net” scared the daylights out of me. If this is how you feel, don’t. Simple as that. Just entertain the idea of not having that safety-net all of the time and you will get there, I promise! For those of you who are ok with this statement and still have that certain someone doing things you dare not do, occasionally try doing it yourself when you get that whim you think you can, because you know what, YOU CAN :) Even imagining doing things on your own can conjure some amazing feelings from within, build those thoughts up enough and you will be spurred on to exciting new levels you didn’t know you had in you!

DON’T FORCE ANYTHING - All in good time! There will be days you read this and think “what’s the point, why bother, what’s the use”, the use is this. Each day you do something different to your normal day and slowly without realising it (which is why you get to the ‘what’s the point’ thoughts) you are releasing the resistance regarding your panic / depression. Don’t take this as a set-back, why, because…..

EVERYBODY HAS A BAD DAY - YES, you heard right. We often think that we are the only ones who have bad days when panic / depression becomes our right-hand-man. Step back and think, people who have never had a nervous bone in their body wake up some mornings feeling dread, fear or downright depressed for no apparent reason. If they thought too much about it, they’d be reading this too. The ones who succeed just take it with a pinch of salt, YOU can do the same! Be easy on yourself and remember….

LOVE AND APPROVE OF YOURSELF!!!

MUCH MUCH LOVE

*.*.*. JOY .*.*.*

EXERCISE

Sometimes it is difficult if not impossible to exercise or even want to for that matter, so, here are some ideas for you to get started no matter where you are at regarding nervous tension or depression...

1. If you are finding it difficult to get out of the house, take small steps, for example, walk around your back-yard, go to the letterbox, even just outside your front door, wherever you are at is just fine! Keep testing yourself every day and build-up the momentum, don't forget to PRAISE YOURSELF for EVERY EFFORT you make! Wherever you are is perfect for you! Reel in the feeling of accomplishing this task!
2. Either start to or when you have conquered the first step, try a quick walk every day, it doesn't have to be long, it could be just a few minutes to a walk around the local block.
3. Go for a 15 minute brisk walk. I find walking briskly gets the nerves down and becomes relaxing (This releases ENDORPHINS in the body, like a HAPPY TONIC). The more anxious you are, the faster you walk because when you get home and sit down, you will feel more relaxed within yourself!
4. Go for a 20 minute walk (see where this is going?), gradually build-up your exercise regime.
5. DON'T THINK THIS HAS TO BE DONE IN A DAY, WEEK OR MONTH, THE BEST ADVISOR ON THIS TOPIC IS YOU. YOU KNOW WHERE YOU ARE AT EMOTIONALLY AND YOU WILL "FEEL" WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT TO INCREASE YOUR SCHEDULED WALKS - THIS GOES FOR ANYTHING YOU DO!

For those who have mastered the above or are already at this point, I suggest:

1. GET INVOLVED IN AN OUTSIDE ACTIVITY: Take that class you have always wanted to do, Meditation Classes (some may think this would be perfect to start with, however, sitting quietly with new people CAN (for some) be overwhelming to begin with), Yoga, Pilates, Boxing / Boxercise (a great one for stress, trust me;) ), Chi-Kung (very good, I love it), Table-Tennis, Chess (ANYTHING THAT GETS YOU INVOLVED IN THE COMMUNITY / MIXING WITH OTHERS), Art (My personal favourite).
2. Start an on-line chat group about something you ENJOY! PLEASE NOTE THIS: I would NEVER suggest you start one regarding Panic / Anxiety Attacks & Depression for the following reasons... I attended such a thing (Panic / Anxiety Group) and found it not only overwhelming because everyone wants to talk about their personal stories & problems, AND, they want to discuss the latest drugs on the market, etc. There may be some advantage, BUT, I did not find it. You can have friends with the same issues! The difference being, it is easier to tell them you don't want to hear their problems, just solutions and it makes it easier for you to change the topic should you become uncomfortable...!
3. Try to plan outings with loved ones, something you love to do, anything from a picnic at your local park to a day at the zoo, perhaps a bike-ride, the beach, an amusement park, museums, visit places that ring your bells. From that, each time you do this, you are WIDENING YOUR BOUNDARIES to the point where going to the local shops, work, etc seem INSIGNIFICANT in time!

That should be enough for today:)

One tip I have come across more recently and I am pretty excited about it. As mentioned on "Food Matters", they suggest for NERVOUS TENSION, to eat Cashews, this will help calm you down! You can check their link out, it is on the right hand side of this under "HEALTH MATTERS", they have a FREE PREVIEW AND YOU CAN ALSO WATCH THE WHOLE THING ON-LINE!!!

TO GOOD HEALTH

LOVE

*.*.*. JOY .*.*.*

NO NEED TO PURCHASE PRODUCTS

HEY THERE

I just wanted to quickly inform you all that my posts do NOT require you to purchase a book / cd or the latest anything in order to succeed.

I do in fact have a few adverts here for you if you like (perhaps want more clarity on a given topic, etc), HOWEVER, this is only the work I have personally purchased over the last 16 years and found useful. Having said all of this, I will be giving you (hopefully on a daily basis) ALL of the tips & tricks I have come across (also friends & family's tips) over time that worked for me! I have tried pretty much everything there is to offer out there in regards to my personal well-being from Aromatherapy, Massage (I am also a massage therapist out of all of this), Kinesiology, Accupressure, TFT, Meditation, Reiki, to possibly every book written on the subject. I would love to help someone SAVE $$$$'s and get to freeing up your life for all of the FUN THINGS ahead of you:)

One more thing: Should ANYONE feel like they have a question in regards to this topic that they have NOT found an answer for, PLEASE CONTACT ME and I will do my best to assist you with the best of my knowledge:)

Much Love

*.*.*. Joy .*.*.*